SEL: Healthy Relationships and Boundaries Worksheet

Question 1

List three qualities of a healthy relationship and explain why each quality matters.

Accepted Answer

A healthy relationship includes respect, honesty, and trust. Respect matters because each person deserves to be treated with dignity. Honesty matters because people need accurate information to make good choices. Trust matters because both people should feel safe and supported.

Question 2

A friend keeps reading your private messages after you asked them to stop. Identify the boundary being crossed and write one clear statement you could use to respond.

Accepted Answer

The friend is crossing a privacy boundary. A clear response could be, "I need you to stop reading my messages. My phone and private conversations are not for you to check without permission."

Question 3

Look at a diagram of personal boundaries with three circles labeled public, social, and private. Give one example of information or behavior that belongs in each circle.

Accepted Answer

In the public circle, a person might share their name or favorite school subject. In the social circle, they might share hobbies or weekend plans with friends. In the private circle, they might keep passwords, personal messages, or family problems to themselves unless they choose a trusted person.

Question 4

Explain the difference between a request and pressure in a relationship. Give one example of each.

Accepted Answer

A request gives someone the freedom to say yes or no, while pressure tries to make someone feel guilty, afraid, or obligated. An example of a request is, "Would you like to hang out after school?" An example of pressure is, "If you cared about me, you would cancel your plans for me."

Question 5

A partner says, "I get jealous because I love you, so you should stop talking to those friends." Identify one unhealthy behavior in this statement and write a healthier alternative.

Accepted Answer

The unhealthy behavior is trying to control who someone talks to. A healthier alternative is, "I feel insecure sometimes, and I would like to talk about it, but I respect your friendships and your choices."

Question 6

Read this conflict: Two classmates are working on a project. One person feels ignored because the other keeps making decisions alone. Write an assertive, respectful message the ignored classmate could use.

Accepted Answer

The classmate could say, "I feel left out when decisions are made without me. I want us to share the work and make choices together so the project reflects both of our ideas." This message is assertive because it states the problem, the feeling, and a fair request.

Question 7

Study a chart with three columns labeled passive, aggressive, and assertive communication. For each style, describe how it might sound during a disagreement.

Accepted Answer

Passive communication might sound like, "It is fine," even when the person is upset. Aggressive communication might sound like, "You always ruin everything." Assertive communication might sound like, "I am upset about what happened, and I want to talk about a better plan."

Question 8

A friend tells you a secret but says they are planning to hurt themselves or someone else. Explain why this is not a secret you should keep and name one safe action to take.

Accepted Answer

This is not a secret to keep because safety is more important than privacy when someone may be harmed. A safe action is to tell a trusted adult right away, such as a counselor, teacher, parent, or school administrator, so the person can get help.

Question 9

Describe two signs that a digital relationship or online interaction may be unhealthy.

Accepted Answer

One sign is someone demanding passwords, location sharing, or constant replies. Another sign is someone sending insults, threats, or unwanted messages after being asked to stop. These behaviors ignore boundaries and can make a person feel unsafe.

Question 10

Write a short personal boundary plan for a social situation. Include one boundary, one way to communicate it, and one support person you could contact if the boundary is not respected.

Accepted Answer

A personal boundary plan could be, "My boundary is that I will not stay at a party if people pressure me to do something unsafe. I can say, 'No, I am not doing that, and I am leaving if it continues.' If the boundary is not respected, I can contact my parent, guardian, older sibling, or another trusted adult for help."

SEL: Healthy Relationships and Boundaries

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